Yes, once again it has been a while. Life just keeps happening even though I would like it to slow down! I took my son off to Boston to college. My 8-year-old started third grade and my oldest daughter is getting married in 25 days! Thank goodness I know how to multi-task.
So, I have had so much positive feedback since my last blog. You spoke…I listened. I have decided to continue writing and forget all about the nasty comments. In reading all of your amazing comments, I realized that I am truly making a difference. I am sincerely grateful to all of you who have supported me through this journey. I originally started this as a way to keep my friends and relatives updated, without having to repeat the story again and again. I had no idea that in a three-year period, I would go from several of my close friends reading this to an average of 144 readers a days…in 42 countries! THANK YOU!
We are told that positive reinforcement is important when raising children. Well I am here to tell you it works for adults as well! Some of the amazing things you have told me over the last few weeks will definitely keep me going! Here are some of the comments I received. I am not posting these to boast, but to share my excitement about the lives I have touched and to continue to bring you along on my journey. After all, YOU are the reason I do this.
Anne says: Hi Lisa – I’ve been reading your blog for the past couple of years, since my daughter (in her early 20s) had an accident which left her with one amputation and the other leg that was (and still is) severely compromised. My way of coping with this was to learn as much as I could to help my daughter, to try to understand what she has to cope with, and your blog has been a great help. I think I know how I would feel if it happened to me, but in truth, I will only REAlly know if I have to go thro it myself. Being so upfront about something that is so personal can’t be easy, and I thank you so much for taking the time and love to try to help amputees to come to terms and non-amputees to understand. Thank you Lisa, please don’t stop, and please ignore those idiots with their pathetic remarks……they only show themselves up. The people that count are your lovely family and friends, don’t let the ignorance of strangers spoil your reaching out to those who appreciate your blog.
Anissa said: Lisa, first of all I have to say, as an amputee, I LOVE your blog and look forward to your posts.
My initial reaction to these emails (probably like most people) was, Whaaaaaat?! But after the initial shock wore off, I had to laugh a little.
In response to the question, “Why do you separate yourself (as a amputee), from non-amputees? You have adopted the general notion that being an amputee means you are less human”.
Um, I hate to state the obvious but you ARE, in fact, an amputee. Writing about it doesn’t mean you are separating yourself, but rather that you are accepting and embracing this part of who you now are.
And, of course (as you well know) you ARE a “normal human being”. However, you are a human being that is also missing a leg (aka, an amputee).
Just as I could never begin to understand what it must be like for someone to be deaf, or blind. A non-amputee could never understand what it’s like to BE an amputee. An amputee will have challenges, emotions, concerns, experiences, (and relationship issues) that a non-amputee will never have, and therefore, never understand.’.
For someone to say they “don’t sympathize you”. I say, Great, thanks!!
I don’t want your sympathy. Sympathy is nothing more than pity. Just because I’m missing a leg, doesn’t mean I’m a helpless, but I still might need help. And if I did need help across the road, (which anyone might) I would gladly take it, and be thankful.
As to the comment, “what makes you less than a fully able criminal?” Um, hopefully nothing makes you less than any kind of criminal!
And lastly, in response to the first email: If a person can’t even articulate a coherent sentence, all you can do with that is laugh, and hit delete.
Keep at it Lisa! You are leaving a mark on the world that is bigger than you know.
April was kind enough to say this: Lisa, I know I don’t always comment on all of your posts, but I do read them all. And as an amputee, I love reading about your experiences and life. I know it’s easy for me to sit here and say, “Just ignore those assholes!” But really, I truly believe you’re doing good. I wish I would’ve found something like your blog when I got my foot amputated 12.5 years ago. I knew no one who had gone through what I was going through and the support groups in my area were filled with older folks who were losing limbs due to diabetes. Not that their amputations are any different, they just weren’t like me, a young mother with many, many more years to live, you know?
I guess what I’m saying is if you feel you need to shut down the blog, I’d completely understand. But if you’re able to help just one person who is getting ready to lose a limb or has just lost a limb, I think it’s worth a million emails from haters and devotees.
Keep your head up, beautiful! And thank you! You rock!
And from Fraser: Lisa, never doubt that both you and your blog are helping. I lost my lower right leg (careless I know) back in November and, although an infrequent visitor to your blog, I find it amusing and inspiring. Keep it up and ignore the detractors and the ignorant!
Thank you my friends for all of your kindness. Thank you for your questions and your loyalty. I promise you I will keep writing and ignoring the nasty comments, as long as you are willing to read what I have to say. While my words may help some of you, your support will help ME more than you will ever know. Thank you.
And as always, thank you for allowing me to be part of your day!
P.S. Is there anything you would like me to write about?